When big changes hit in your life, it can be hard to know what to do. There are many different emotions that can come with change - excitement, fear, anxiety, confusion. Sometimes big changes in our lives can be difficult. When big changes hit in your life, it can feel like you're in uncharted territory. You don't know what to expect and you're not sure how to handle the new challenges. We may feel anxious or unsure of what to do. Here are a few tips for coping with big changes:
Talk about it
Acknowledge that there is probably some fear and uncertainty going on and talk to someone you trust about it. It can be helpful to have someone listen without judging or giving advice. Seeking someone you can talk to is where you get to make the changes. It may take some time because change takes time. Remember, it's not a matter of if you will change, but when.
Accept the change
Accept the change - when you accept a change, it can help you to feel more in control. The idea of admitting that you don't know what to do can be scary. But if you want to make changes and are open about it, those feelings will go away.
Make a plan
Decide what you want to achieve and write down the steps you need to take to get there. This will help you stay focused and motivated. Having a plan will help ease the transition into new circumstances; it'll also help take the stress out of trying to figure everything out on your own.
Set yourself boundaries
It's important to set boundaries so that you don't overcommit yourself and end up feeling overwhelmed. Make a list of things that are important to you and stick to it.
Take some time for yourself
When big changes happen, it can be hard to focus on your own needs. Resist the urge to put everything else on hold and take some time for yourself. Find ways to relax and recharge your batteries.
Stay connected to the people who support you. These could be family, your church family, friends, colleagues or neighbours. They help you make sense of what is left and most important.
Learn from your experiences and reflect on them. The changes that happen when you're expecting a baby are different from what happens with other life events like getting married or starting a business or moving to a new city.
Don't place all your eggs in one basket
Even though it seems like it's best to protect yourself from any potential problems, don't let fear keep you from doing things that are important to you.
Expect the unexpected knowing you are ready
No matter how prepared you think you are, things will always happen faster than you expect them to. Deal with whatever comes your way as best you can, and don't beat yourself up over mistakes that you may make. Be ready for whatever comes and find a song to sing through.
The best way to get through the worst of times is to keep your head up and remember that although bad things happen may happen sometimes, you have the inner ability to deal with whatever comes through the combined effort of your family and loved ones.